On average, a person spends 45-62 minutes waiting in line every day! And, if there’s a line, you obviously are not alone.
One of my favorite ways to “practice” meeting people is to offer a compliment to someone standing next to me in line. I can’t think of anyone that does not appreciate the kindness of strangers – and what better way to make someone’s day then to praise them personally!
If your goal is to meet new people, be sure to phrase your compliment as a conversation starter. For example, rather than saying “I love your necklace,” say “I love your necklace. Where did you find it?” The simple act of asking a question that can’t be answered with a a ‘yes’ or a ‘no’ answer opens the door to dialogue. In the beginning, giving compliments can feel awkward. Try not worry about whether you will seem strange to the person. Instead, focus on how much it will brighten her day to receive a compliment from a stranger! If someone argues with your compliment, then she is probably having her own issues, issues that have nothing to do with you. But even if she chooses to reject your attempt to boost her day, at least you added a little boost to your own! A compliment is a gift and if she chooses not to accept your gift, you still end up with a good feeling knowing you offered it to her. I live my life knowing that it takes givers to be receivers and receivers to be givers. Therefore, the more compliments you give away, the more goodness you will feel and your own self-esteem will grow.
So the next time you are waiting for a vanilla latte, take the time to tell your line partner-in-crime something nice. Compliments are like a cup of coffee, a great way to start your day.
With a career ranging from working with DragonBallZ to VW of America, from Sales to Marketing/PR, from Dallas to Australia…and finally to recruiting nurses to work throughout the United States – in 2009 Carlyn found herself without a job. She asked herself “What do I LOVE to do? What is my PASSION?”. What were her next steps? And then she realized – she turns strangers into friends. Join her journey here.