Even the quoted could have used some recognition for their work. Are you getting the recognition and praise that you deserve at work?
To feel loved and recognized is to feel alive. Appreciation is the deepest need of our ego (subconscious mind). It’s deepest and usually most unfulfilled need is its desire to be appreciated. Take a moment to nurture your ego, look at your ego as if it is childlike and ask yourself what this childlike ego may need. Safety, security, boundaries, and of course love and appreciation.
In the workplace this need is forgotten too often and when this part of us is not fulfilled we start seeking out new employment where we believe we can be given such gratitude. Appreciation is important to one’s self-esteem and happiness and is often taken for granted in the workplace.
Maybe it’s time for that childlike ego to stop complaining about how he/she doesn’t get appreciated by people and start taking action to attract the needed appreciation. Yes, there is a solution. People cannot read your mind, so verbalize your need and want for appreciation. If your supervisor isn’t giving you what you want then it is your duty to let them know. When you are experiencing severe burnout, it is your supervisor’s small reward or recognition that will get you back on track. If you don’t see either, then it may be time to directly talk to your boss and let him or her know how you feel.
Words like “I appreciate what you did,” touch us, but also have the profound power to motivate us. Share your desire for recognition and ask him or her for a congratulatory email or phone call once in a while to keep you moving positively forward. It is in their best interest regarding employee retention to save money by keeping current employees motivated. Having to recruit new personnel would easily offset the cost of a small bit of reward and recognition.
You need to be absolutely clear about what appreciation means to you in the workplace, be willing to stand up for this belief, and explain why you should have it. Practice appreciation by starting with yourself. Ask yourself where you can appreciate others and yourself. Ask yourself, “ What can I feel proud about?” The process of asking for recognition will truly only work if you are specific in what you want, concise in the language you use, and extremely direct. The more vague you are, the more likely your message will be misinterpreted.
A truly successful boss knows how to hold a people’s value, even in situations where they haven’t met the mark. Generally their goal should be to get them to change their behavior for the better. The dictionary defines appreciation in many ways, but one meaning is “an increase in value,” and lets face it we could all use a nourishing increase in value from time to time. Appreciation enhances all kinds of relationships. If you are not feeling appreciated, take the step to get what you feel you deserve.
If the greatest need of every human being is the need for appreciation, fulfill your need at work by asking for this important need to be met.
Jean Klewitz is a Resident Manager at the University of Hawaii at Hilo and a Multimedia Communications graduate student with the Academy of Art University in San Francisco. She is creative communicator who freely gives messages through video, music, writing, and public speaking. Jean is extremely supportive of helping women to continually grow and learn and helps to provide students and colleagues with support and leadership.