You know that friend who’s holding out for the perfect job, that candidate who seems perfectly relaxed in the waiting area, or the roommate who says she nailed her interview?
Maybe you’re one of those people, but more likely, you’re wondering how they’re so confident, and how you can be that way, too.
Let’s get inside the head of a confident job seeker (we’ll call her Confident Cara) and deconstruct the attitudes and beliefs that underlie her calm exterior.
7 beliefs to take you from nail biting to job winning
I know what I’m good at. It’s easy to fall into a self-assessment trap, thinking you’re just good enough at everything or not very good at anything. Confident Cara owns the skills she brings to the table — and the ones she doesn’t.
People want to help. Much of job searching involves asking for things — for informational interviews, for job leads, for references. While less-confident job seekers might think they’re being a burden Confident Cara understands most people genuinely want to help.
I’m selective. Confident Cara knows she’s better off focusing on roles that suit her skills and values. Just because she’s qualified doesn’t mean Confident Cara wants to apply.
I will be great in this role. Because Confident Cara hones in on opportunities where the work and environment fit her preferences, she knows she could add value to the organization.
I’m an equal part in this process. “I’m also interviewing the company,” is Confident Cara’s mantra.
The hiring manager wants me to succeed. Confident Cara knows that most hiring managers aren’t evil or trying to trick you. They want to fill the position and get back to other things.
Your Turn: What attitudes and beliefs help you keep your confidence?
After graduating from UNC-Chapel Hill in 2009 with degrees in journalism and psychology, Kelly Giles used Twitter to find her first job as a social media strategist. She delights in any project at the intersection of marketing, design and psychology. You can often find her creating compelling user experiences, crafting psychologically and visually appealing cover letters, or helping her sales friends figure out how to get on their prospects’ radar screens. Follow her on Twitter and Pinterest!