Confidence And The Evil Eye

Envy killed the chickens. Or so my Bedouin mother-in-law used to believe. There once was a jealous neighbor who came to the house for a visit. Commenting on the large flock of hens pecking away in the courtyard, forgetting to invoke God’s blessing on such wealth, she drew the Evil Eye’s focus. The very next day, all forty birds lay talons up, leaving my mother-in-law...

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Scared To Deliver Feedback? Don’t Be.

“Wow, no one ever told me.” This phrase has been uttered by too many people in the working world. Wouldn’t you agree? Have you ever said it?   It continues to amaze me that leaders can’t or don’t choose to provide difficult feedback when an employee isn’t performing to expectations. How many employees do you believe were surprised over the...

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When The Hole Is Not The Whole

  From my mother, I inherited a buzzing sense of dread and the tendency to ignore blatantly unpleasant facts. From Dad, I received guilt, a distrust of others, and an intensity of personality that could knock a buzzard off a shit wagon. Without meaning to, my parents taught me to suppress my feelings, to put on a happy face for...

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Is Your Workplace Evolving with Millennials?

  In the workplace, it’s sometimes easy to spot the generational gaps that can occur when 20-somethings are mixed in with 30- and 40-somethings. It can be as subtle as an overheard conversation among senior managers about the “entitled” Millennial generation, or as in-your-face as high turnover rates for junior positions. Once companies face the facts – that Millennials are...

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Professional Blockers Are Behaviors That Can Limit Your Career

      What is a professional blocker and why is it important? Professional blockers are behaviors that can limit your career. Also called “derailer” or “barrier,” it is a weakness that will require improvement if you want to reach your full potential. Sometimes, a blocker can also be a talent taken to an extreme. Examples include: confrontation; entitlement; revealing...

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Culture Connection: A NEXTer Takes On Japan

We have started a year-long series to introduce NEXTers to customs and cultures around the world. First stop – Japan, my home country! How can we build relationships with Japanese people? People in Japan are very collectivist. Everyone has his or her own social circles. For example, when you go to school, you realize that all of your classmates have...

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How do I cope with the doubts I have that I’m just bluffing my way through things?

  Dear Jules,     How do I cope with the doubts I have that I’m just bluffing my way through things? I feel like I have no idea what I am   doing!    -Anna NEXT for Women’s resident life and confidence coach, Jules, weighs in below! Dear Anna, A female executive whom I coach asked me the above question recently...

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Putting Out Office Fires: Do You Fan The Flames?

  Are you a Catabolic or Anabolic Leader? Even sometimes? Catabolic leaders work in crisis mode. They put out fires, and deal with issues as they arise. This reactivity leads to stress, lack of focus, and a non-productive, frenzied type of atmosphere. They don’t think much about where they’re headed, and even if they do, the “big picture” gets lost...

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Podcasts: A Portable Radio For This Century

  Podcasts are an inexpensive and convenient way to learn, laugh and grow. Similar to gaining insights and inspiration from your favorite blogs and magazines, podcasts offer audio or video content for download via an online subscription. iTunes has a vast library of podcasts for free download, but you can also listen to episodes directly from the publisher’s website. One...

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Stop Playing The Middle Man: Learn To Communicate Directly

Ultimately the best way to communicate difficult messages with people in your work life is directly.  Communicating directly means approaching them and sharing your message face-to-face. Being indirect, by contrast, means speaking about them when not in their presence, or using a third party as an intermediary. The wisdom of communicating directly may seem obvious, yet I find communicating indirectly...

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